Month: November 2018

Why Ana Is Perfect For Me

This morning, I walked Ana and Ean to the subway with him on my shoulders, holding an umbrella. I wanted to stop to take a photo with him because I don’t have a lot of those. In doing so, they missed the subway by a few seconds. She sent me an angry message “Damn picture, 2 seconds late.” to which I replied “Cherish moments, not schedules.”

Me and Ana are very different from each other. She’s the brain, I’m the heart. How does that work? It does because we are each other’s opposites. I give emotion to her logic when needed to create balance and she brings reasoning and reality checks to my sometimes extremely heart driven choices. Who wins? Whoever stands to benefit the most. I think we’re honest enough with ourselves and each other to be able to say when to insist and when to give in. Someone was asking how I make it work with someone who is so different from me and it’s actually quite simple.…

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I Want My Bed And You Can’t Come

We’re big fans of co-sleeping in this family. The whole “let him cry himself to sleep” method seems inhumane and unnecessarily cruel. I got the longer end of that stick though. Ean has his naps with me, falls asleep in 1 minute and I sneak out and get some stuff done until he wakes up 1-3 hours later. Ana, who has been breastfeeding, usually wakes up a couple of times per night.

Either way, he’s always slept in our bed, despite having his own room and his own bed. We didn’t push it, personally I love sleeping with him because he tends to pull me into a small nap too and he never wakes up until he’s done resting. Ana, despite the waking up at night loves to sleep with him too, but it seems that might be about to change.…

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VIDEO: Watching Baby Development in 3D with Pregnancy+ app

One of the biggest reasons why I wanted to wait a couple of years to have another child was to give ample time to enjoy Ean’s firsts years, undivided and unrivalled and without any distractions. I wanted to deep dive into parenthood and indulge in it. I also wanted him to be a part of the next pregnancy and so now, one of my favorite things is our weekly baby development sessions where we look at an amazing 3D app of a baby and read about the new developments for the week. We always start each week from week 0 and though he does not yet have an understanding of what actually happens during conception, it will be a natural part of his knowledge about pregnancy. That a part of daddy and a part of mommy come together and a baby is created.

We browse week by week up until the current week, in this case week 10 and we compare it with the ultrasounds to try to figure out what’s what. Of course I had to make a video about it and giving you a good look at this app called, pregnancy+. As the belly grows and the ultrasounds become more clear it’s going to be more and more fun to watch the 3D render up until birth. I don’t know if he completely understands that another human being is going to be a part of our family but he understands where he comes from and has seen the delivery video. All I know is, this is exactly how I wanted this to go and I’m so happy to share this experience with such a lovely and curious creature like Ean.

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VIDEO: 7-10 Weeks Pregnancy With Second Baby

When I told Ana I was thinking about giving up on Fatherologist she responded as if I had insulted her mother. Refuelled with motivation, I decided to put together this video. I have no idea to what extent I will make these videos but I simply do it from the perspective of what I think Ean would love to have as he grows up, for longevity and all that. Anyway, hit the subscribe button to be notified about new videos and follow me on Facebook for damn near daily updates in this strange world of parenting.

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The Benefit Of Insisting (or “forcing”)

 

Having trouble getting your kid to eat? As with everything else kids related, there’s a disagreement between whether or not you should force things on kids. We as adults “know what’s good for our kids” but if we push too hard it might have the opposite effect. For the longest time I prescribed to the gentle approach when it comes to food, fearing that forcing or insisting would result in a resentment against food in general… which for a food lover like me, is a nightmare. If he didn’t want to eat something I would neither insist or push it on him, thinking that he will eventually get around to it.

Fast forward to about a month ago when I… I don’t know, maybe I was just having a bad day or was just sad about all the good stuff he’s missing out on. Long story short, I sat him down in the kitchen with me and filled the countertop with various things to eat. He was kicking and screaming, crying and making a fuss when I tried to get him to try cheese, yoghurt, bell pepper etc. I guess I had enough and raised my voice as well, expressing my frustration about his refusal. We argued for a good while, both of us in tears of frustration and he finally gave in. Our deal was established, he doesn’t have to eat anything he doesn’t want but he has to try everything once, just ONCE. If he at that point doesn’t like it, he can spit it out.

So he did just that. He took a bite of the bell pepper, spit it out and described it… sweet, juicy, crunchy. This became his way of exploring food, by intellectualising it and describing it in flavor, texture and color.

Since then I have seen great improvements both in how he eats, chews and with which speed he does it. Now he tries almost anything simply from curiosity and he even understands when he likes the taste of something but is not quite ready for the texture, so he keeps asking to have a bite, chews it for a bit and discards it.

I understand that texture plays a big part but to deny the experience of a flavor simply because the texture is challenging, is a poor excuse to not experience it. Children especially vary a lot in gag reflex and what type of textures and flavors they can tolerate but it has to be taught just like “don’t put rocks in your mouth”. It’s a trained skilled, to learn how to be open to try and experience new foods, or things in general for that matter. Hiding in a shell of fear is for me not a valid option unless forcing it would be traumatic so I would argue that insisting is a useful tool, maybe calling it forcing is just semantics but I guess you catch my drift.

There’s nothing wrong with nudging the limits of a child, God knows we should do it more often as adults too!…

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