Category: Videos

Reaching New Heights With Your Kids

Parenting is rarely about big gestures. It probably has more to do with your every day interactions and how you handle individuals and situations. Today I experienced one of those situations where it was 3 PM, Ean was tired and hungry and therefore of course grumpy and sad.

As tears started to run down his cheeks and he was expressing his despair I had two choices either to speak to him like a person who is experiencing overwhelming emotions or reduce him to a nuisance that I need to get control of as soon as possible. I think you know where I’m going with this.

First I asked him to regain control of himself, this is something we have been practicing since he was a baby. I’ve taught him breathing techniques to calm him down when he’s bordering on a tantrum or emotions running over. I made a video about it when he was smaller. Eye contact, focus on breathing and tons of patience. Here´s that video:

 

So I repeated a few times: regain control, calm yourself and take a deep breath. Good, one more time. Now, please listen for a moment.

I understand what you are experiencing right now and I think you do too. It’s 3 o’clock, you’re hungry and it’s getting close to your siesta time. You know what that means right? Your emotions get really big and you get grumpy and sad. I hear you and I understand that you want to do what do you want to do but that’s not how it works in a family. I can only listen to you if you listen to me and we can only do things that you want if you do things that we want. A little bit for you, and a little bit for me so that everyone is happy.

We went to the shop that you wanted and we’ve been playing in here for 30 minutes and before that you were waiting patiently while I was working. That’s a little bit for you and a little bit for ne. Now it’s getting late, you need to eat and we need to go to sleep. So can we agree that this is best for everyone? Are you listening to me? Yes? Thank you. To show you that I’m listening to you, I know you want my phone and you can have it during the drive home to watch Netflix. Does that sound fair? Yes? Great! Now, a big hug and let’s go home. I love you and thank you for understanding.

Believe me, not every interaction goes this well and I have lost my temper more times than I can count but we have to keep trying right? We have to keep getting better and be the best parents we possibly can, learn from our shortcomings and improve, always. This is just an example of how something negative can turn into something very positive. We were all tired, it was hot and humid and nobody was really in the mood for a conversation but having the mental agility to make that extra effort not only defused a potential powder-keg about to go off but also brought us closer together.…

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Pregnancy And Delivery Video + 1 Month Update

Allegra is about 1 month old now and we are kind of settling into our routines at this point. I’m still working on the house renovation so I’m not as present as I would like to be with the kids, but I do my best. Thankfully the house is close to where we live so it’s a quick 10 minute drive if I need to assist with any situation.

Baby is gaining weight at an amazing rate, adding almost 1 kg and 2 cm in only the first 3 weeks! She’s independent, calm, very quiet and literally sleeps about 20 hours per day. In many ways she’s already a contrast to Ean. He loved to be held and wanted to interact from birth. Allegra is fine on her own, it seems she prefers just to chill on her own in the crib or the swing and even goes to sleep on her own. Ean was the exact opposite, it’s cool to see such big differences from birth! Like Ean though, Allegra is 100% breastfed and this time around, with Ana having learned all the postures and tricks to feeding as well as having breastfed actively to some extent for 3 years, apart from a bit of soreness the first week, it’s gone without a hitch.

Ana is doing great too, apart from the lack of sleep I guess. The baby weight is already off, one of the many… MANY benefits of breastfeeding. Now she just complains sometimes about pain in her bones and joints from the body adjusting back to normal after having pushed out a watermelon and losing 10+kg with all the changes in posture and pressure that comes with that. Other than that, she’s one haircut away from being back to her old self, ha ha! (her words, not mine!)

So I finally managed to put together my ambitious video from the pregnancy and delivery. Initially I was planning to vlog more and make longer episodes leading up to birth but neither the interest of others, nor the time on my part was there (I know, due to the new house, or finding a house to buy rather) so I decided to condense it into one pregnancy/delivery video. Here it is, don’t forget to give it the usual thumbs, comments and shares if you like it!

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VIDEO: First Advent Traditions and Baking Lussekatter!

Growing up, I didn’t have a lot of steady traditions to look forward to, so to be able to provide them for my child kind of feels like a do-over for me, a change to experience it through his eyes. The morning starts with a present, the annual Christmas pyjamas, julkalender and of course baking. I grew up in Sweden so my Christmas culinary preferences are heavily influenced by just that… well, at least when it comes to the sweet stuff like lussekatter and pepparkakor.

Last year was the first time he properly understood the Christmas celebration and this year is the first time he remembers it and has a recollection of what happened then and what to expect now. This is going to get more and more fun each year… and next Christmas we’ll be four, yeayyy!!!

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VIDEO: Watching Baby Development in 3D with Pregnancy+ app

One of the biggest reasons why I wanted to wait a couple of years to have another child was to give ample time to enjoy Ean’s firsts years, undivided and unrivalled and without any distractions. I wanted to deep dive into parenthood and indulge in it. I also wanted him to be a part of the next pregnancy and so now, one of my favorite things is our weekly baby development sessions where we look at an amazing 3D app of a baby and read about the new developments for the week. We always start each week from week 0 and though he does not yet have an understanding of what actually happens during conception, it will be a natural part of his knowledge about pregnancy. That a part of daddy and a part of mommy come together and a baby is created.

We browse week by week up until the current week, in this case week 10 and we compare it with the ultrasounds to try to figure out what’s what. Of course I had to make a video about it and giving you a good look at this app called, pregnancy+. As the belly grows and the ultrasounds become more clear it’s going to be more and more fun to watch the 3D render up until birth. I don’t know if he completely understands that another human being is going to be a part of our family but he understands where he comes from and has seen the delivery video. All I know is, this is exactly how I wanted this to go and I’m so happy to share this experience with such a lovely and curious creature like Ean.

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VIDEO: 7-10 Weeks Pregnancy With Second Baby

When I told Ana I was thinking about giving up on Fatherologist she responded as if I had insulted her mother. Refuelled with motivation, I decided to put together this video. I have no idea to what extent I will make these videos but I simply do it from the perspective of what I think Ean would love to have as he grows up, for longevity and all that. Anyway, hit the subscribe button to be notified about new videos and follow me on Facebook for damn near daily updates in this strange world of parenting.

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Processed with Snapseed.It was just three days ago that I posted this photo on Instagram, saying how relieved I was that Ean didn’t start walking as soon as he learned to stand on his own and from out of nowhere, today he just let go of the wall and started walking around the house.

It took every bit of my discipline not to start jumping around and dancing instead of just quietly walking after him filming, obviously with a lot of high pitched encouragement and “azzizi basma ganoookh!” (don’t ask).

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It’s been two months since Ean was born and since his birth we have been using cloth diapers, almost exclusively. In retrospect, comparing the simple repetitive act of changing diapers, there isn’t really a big difference between cloth and disposable. The big differences come into play when we talk about how much trash is being produced and how much money we throw in that mountain of trash. This review will hopefully shed some light and clarity on the subject in a simple way.

I have compared several different brands and types of cloth diapers to determine which is best and why I think that. All of them have been used on a daily basis for the past two months. Read on for my verdicts.…

The three of us went for a sunrise walk together. Ana was going for her first post baby delivery swim which she had been looking forward to for six weeks. I was holding Ean while she was in the water when all of a sudden, he let it rip and crapped all over himself and me.

We were planning to dip him after he had gotten his shots but come on, it’s the sea, not a stinky swimming pool and so I couldn’t resist. If you’re wondering about the “wiiii” sound I made, it’s what I do when we shower when I’m about to put his head under the water stream. I have no evidence of its relevance but it felt like a good idea to continue with it as we gradually are going to get him more and more into the water and eventually submerge him completely (just for a second, relax!).

He did tense up a bit of course, partial blindness and loud waves would do that to anyone for the first time but he didn’t dislike it, for sure! Pretty soon we’ll be bubbling away under the sea.…